I think the most meaningful real connections I have are when either I have helped someone through something difficult, or someone else was there for me physically present once and without that person I would have not succeeded overcoming a hurdle. From that ability to trust comes also the ability to open up and be truly honest suddenly with one another. These connections are perhaps of a higher value to me than those connections I can have online with very enlightened people .. because chances are: i don’t mean anything to them. The exception is when occasionally I do get a direct response. For example one guy ran a telegram channel .. and even-though I’d never met him.. he did treat hosting much of my content like ‘the teamwork I’d expect from a brother with the same core-mission to defend life as best possible within our means
I've found that shared trauma or recounting similar experiences makes a real bond and creates empathy. Someone who has been through similar experiences to you can understand why you behave and feel as you do, far more easily than someone who has no personal knowledge of what you've been through. That deep connection is very meaningful and allows mutual support and healing.
Shared values helps. I think the most important - and rare - quality is that of active and empathetic listening. The warm curiosity you mentioned too, Doc. Two way sharing also, not just one person baring themselves. Intelligent conversation, not bubble gum fake shit.
I think these things are mutually reinforcing - but I think the starting point is agreeing that it's high time for adults to simply have fun together again. NO OTHER AGENDA. Agree or disagree on anything else, I think we can all agree on that. Next is the opportunity to just be ourselves without judgment. From there, I think it's easier for us to be honest and reflect on our common humanity, with humility about what we don't know, and the mistakes we all make and have made. Starting with values, I think, ends up dividing us. That's because we often DO share values, but they are hidden behind information filters that persuade people that we don't agree, even though we probably would if we all had the same information. Fighting an information war is for other people, not those who want to reconnect with each other and with what is true.
I think the most meaningful real connections I have are when either I have helped someone through something difficult, or someone else was there for me physically present once and without that person I would have not succeeded overcoming a hurdle. From that ability to trust comes also the ability to open up and be truly honest suddenly with one another. These connections are perhaps of a higher value to me than those connections I can have online with very enlightened people .. because chances are: i don’t mean anything to them. The exception is when occasionally I do get a direct response. For example one guy ran a telegram channel .. and even-though I’d never met him.. he did treat hosting much of my content like ‘the teamwork I’d expect from a brother with the same core-mission to defend life as best possible within our means
I've found that shared trauma or recounting similar experiences makes a real bond and creates empathy. Someone who has been through similar experiences to you can understand why you behave and feel as you do, far more easily than someone who has no personal knowledge of what you've been through. That deep connection is very meaningful and allows mutual support and healing.
Shared values helps. I think the most important - and rare - quality is that of active and empathetic listening. The warm curiosity you mentioned too, Doc. Two way sharing also, not just one person baring themselves. Intelligent conversation, not bubble gum fake shit.
😢 I don't have even one human in my life.
I think these things are mutually reinforcing - but I think the starting point is agreeing that it's high time for adults to simply have fun together again. NO OTHER AGENDA. Agree or disagree on anything else, I think we can all agree on that. Next is the opportunity to just be ourselves without judgment. From there, I think it's easier for us to be honest and reflect on our common humanity, with humility about what we don't know, and the mistakes we all make and have made. Starting with values, I think, ends up dividing us. That's because we often DO share values, but they are hidden behind information filters that persuade people that we don't agree, even though we probably would if we all had the same information. Fighting an information war is for other people, not those who want to reconnect with each other and with what is true.